Fear is not your enemy to defeat or to despise. It is, in fact, your friend. The annoying one.
We all have that friend/relative who’s worried about everything.
“It’s too cold, we’ll get ill! It’s too sunny, we’ll get sunburnt! It’s too late, too early…” the list can go on and on.
But here’s the thing: all this comes from the place of love.
Fear, also, comes from a place of love.
So what if we’d return the same to it?
What if I’d say, thank you fear for showing me where I need to improve. Thank you for making me prepared. But now is the time to do what we prepared for and see where it takes us. Maybe it won’t be what we wanted. Maybe it will. But there’s only one way to find out.
Here’s the other thing: fear is loud. But it’s not the boss of you. It exists to support you, protect you but it does not have veto power. You can listen to it, take its opinion into consideration but you don’t have to do what it says. The voice of fear is one of the many to consider. There’s the voice of dare, the voice of risk, the voice of reason, the voice of desire and more.
There’s only one who has the power to veto: the voice of self. That deep core with all your wisdom. The others? They’re just noise. The radio in the background. Don’t believe they’re much more than that.
If you ask a question, should I move to another country, and your fear shouts no, give it a hug, then turn that radio down and listen to your core: what does it say?
If your fear says you can’t backpack, it’s dangerous, thank it for that insight, with honest, loving gratitude. Then do what your heart desires.
If you’ve never been in a solo trip but you’ve been looking into it for a while, let fear have its say, then turn to your Self again.
Listen to that song that calls your name – it brings you the best presents.